For Young Children · Ages 4–12

Counseling for Young Children

Hi, I'm Lillian. I've spent the majority of my career working with young children — and I've designed my entire practice around helping them heal.

Young children need a completely different approach

Because what works for an 8-year-old is very different from what works for a teenager.

Young children don't have the language skills or emotional maturity to sit across from a therapist and explain what's bothering them. Trying to pull information out of a 6-year-old through direct questions rarely works — and can make a child feel pressured or defensive.

That's why I use play. Children reveal what they're experiencing through the toys they choose, how they play with them, and the stories they tell. It's not just fun — it's clinically proven to be one of the most effective ways to understand and treat what a young child is going through.

A simple but innovative approach

I offer a carefully selected range of games, toys, and art materials in a specially designed children's room. Your child chooses what they want to explore. As I observe their mannerisms, expressions, and choices, they unknowingly reveal valuable information about themselves — without ever feeling put on the spot.

This approach allows children to process grief, anxiety, trauma, and difficult emotions in a way that feels natural and safe to them. The results can be remarkable.

For online sessions

For younger children who work with me online, I use a virtual playground. Children get very excited about this — we share a screen, they select toys from a virtual shelf, and we work through their feelings together. It's engaging, effective, and something kids genuinely look forward to.

The tween years (Ages 10–12)

As children reach their tween years, they develop more verbal skills. I typically use a combination of talk therapy and play therapy during this stage — transitioning gradually as each child becomes more comfortable expressing themselves directly.

Benefits of specialized child counseling

Reduce or eliminate unwanted behaviors faster
Improved focus, grades, and concentration
A calmer, more peaceful home life
A more confident, secure child
Better social skills and friendships
Reduced anger, crying, and emotional outbursts
Processing grief and difficult emotions
Parent guidance and support tools

I have spent the majority of my career helping young children — sometimes several times a week. Chances are, I have worked with a situation very similar to yours. Every child is different, so I conduct thorough assessments at the start to fine-tune the treatment plan for each individual child.

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Lillian Lai
LCSW #94656

Lillian Lai

Child Specialist · $195/session
Speaks English & Cantonese

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What Lillian Treats

  • ADHD
  • Anxiety & Depression
  • Childhood Trauma & Abuse
  • Loneliness & Social Issues
  • Behavioral Issues
  • Grief & Life Transitions
  • Enuresis & Encopresis
  • Self-Esteem & Body Image
Free Consultation

Call or text Lillian directly for a free 15-minute phone consultation. No obligation.

(714) 312-6598
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Your child deserves to feel better

If your child is struggling and you're not sure where to start, Lillian is here to help. A free 15-minute consultation is a great first step — no commitment required.

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