If every attempt to work through problems ends in argument, you don't need to try harder. You need better tools — and a proven process.
When couples argue repeatedly without resolution, something called "anticipatory anxiety" sets in. You stop bringing up issues because you already know how it will go. So problems either get buried or explode — and neither approach works. Over time, that pattern can make even the most committed partners start to wonder: Is this ever going to get better?
That's the question most couples ask when they walk through the door. The honest answer is: for most couples who are willing to put in the work — yes. We've helped couples who argued constantly, who were one step from divorce, where one or both partners had been unfaithful, and where values clashes had created deep divisions.
From our experience, if both of you are willing to follow the process and invest the effort, you have a very strong chance of making it work.
We don't just give advice for the problem you came in with. We give you the tools to work through your current conflict — and every conflict you'll face in the future. When you're angry with each other, the natural way couples communicate doesn't work. It usually makes things worse. So instead, we teach a new structure for how to talk that has produced remarkable results over and over again.
We also offer special insights to help you protect your relationship from potential harm — things most couples never think about until it's too late.
“This is the best weekend we've ever had. Everything I ever wanted growing up — I now have.”
— Couple who completed therapy with EdThis is one of the most common situations we hear about. You can start individual sessions first — many clients find that once one partner begins and shares what they're experiencing, the hesitant partner becomes more open. Ed has also helped many individuals work through relationship patterns on their own, which sometimes creates enough positive shift that the other person eventually wants to join.
The length of time you've been struggling doesn't determine the outcome as much as your willingness to follow a process. Ed has worked with couples who were one signature away from divorce and helped them rebuild something stronger than they had before. If both of you are willing to put in the effort, there is real hope — even after years of conflict.
Yes. Affair recovery is one of Ed's areas of deep expertise. Healing from infidelity is possible, but it requires a structured process — not just talking through feelings. Ed guides couples through rebuilding trust at a pace that is honest, realistic, and lasting. Many couples who have worked through an affair report that their relationship became closer and more honest than it was before.
Most couples see meaningful progress within 8–16 sessions, though this varies based on how complex the issues are and how consistently both partners engage with the work between sessions. Ed doesn't believe in stretching treatment unnecessarily. You'll set clear goals at the start, and progress is measured against them throughout.
No. Ed's role is to be a skilled, neutral guide — not a judge or referee. He won't validate one partner at the expense of the other. What he will do is hold both of you accountable, reflect patterns back to you clearly, and give you tools that work when your natural communication instincts are working against you.
Yes. Pre-marital counseling is one of the best investments a couple can make — not because there's something wrong, but because the tools you build before conflict arises make everything easier. Ed works with engaged and newly married couples on communication, conflict patterns, finances, parenting expectations, and more.
Most couples wait an average of six years before seeking help. Don't wait. The sooner you start, the more there is to save.